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It’s no secret that parents want their children to be successful. They’ve raised them and want to make sure they have the best opportunities in life.
Different parents take this idea to different extremes, though. In fact, some parents have cared so much about their child’s “success” that it drove them to criminality, as in the case of the recent college admissions scandal, where some paid millions of dollars to get their kids into the country’s most elite universities.
But with all of the stressful parts of parenting, there are some things that, according to experts, parents actually don’t need to worry about if they want their kids to be successful. Here are four:
Where your child goes to college
Of course you want what’s best for your kid, but that doesn’t necessarily mean sending them to a big name or Ivy league school.
“Their degree of success in the future depends on their skills and character, not on the brand name of their college,” Julie Lythcott-Haims, author of the New York Times bestseller How to Raise an Adult, tells Thrive. “Harvard Law School routinely takes applicants from over 150 different colleges. If those 150 colleges are good enough for Harvard Law School, can’t they be good enough for you?”
Not only that, but at a certain point in life, people do not care about where you went to college, especially if you are good at what you do, Jennifer L. Hartstein, PsyD, a psychologist based in New York City and author of Princess Recovery: A How-To Guide to Raising Strong Empowered Girls Who Can Create Their Own Happily Ever Afters tells Thrive.